Husband and wife relationship

 Allah created a beautiful creature in the name of women. A woman is the significant other, a soulmate for a man, a paradise for her kids, a friend for her mother.

women is a five alphabetical word but she has countless qualities. She sacrifices her most favorite things for her family without any hesitation. Without thinking a single word she comprises with the situations just because of her family. She turns slim to fatty in the process of giving birth to her kids. Her skin is going to dull day by day, but she never says a single word.

She was created by Allah in the very unique nature of the feminine, gentle, kind, and physically weak compared to a man. The most strong one is that she possesses strong feelings, patience, and a soft and gentle heart. It is one of the wisdom on why it is women who should bear the burden in nurturing the children, as a very important role in the household, tending to her husband, and so on.

But when I see in my surroundings I just saw numerous couples who try to make a successful life, try to show that they are the happiest couple in the world, most of them are really good ones, but others are just showing off to others that they are perfect. They are educated, they belong to educated families, but still, they just have conservative minds. If they talk to his wife with a smile, if they show some affection towards her, or if they try to help her in house chores, his family members are calling him " joru kA Ghulam" " zan mureed" ( servant of wife).

These two words are work as a fire of today's man, when someone uses these words for him, he feels insulted, he feels that he did something wrong, he thought that he did sin.

This society and this so-called educated community made the relationship between husband and wife more difficult and complicated. 

Sadly, this relationship that Allah has established for the good has been made a source of argument, betrayal, cheating, dictatorship, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be.

The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husbands that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them to trick them into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family.

Allah described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: 

"He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . ."

A husband is a soulmate for his wife, he has to listen patiently when his wife is upset, holds her when she cries, he is not just a husband, he is a lover, he is a best friend for her because he is the one who she can trust unconditionally, he is the one who she can love absolutely, he is the one she can pray behind because there is nothing more romantic and more affectionate than a married couple praying and making dua together. 

One day the Prophet PBUH paid a visit to the house of Hazrat Ali and Bibi Fatimah. He saw that Hazrat Ali sieving the pulses and Fatimah was busy cooking. On observing this the Holy Prophet PBUH remarked.

" O Ali, I do not speak except what is revealed to me. Anyone who helps his wife in her domestic affairs obtains a reward of one year of worship equal to the amount of hair on his body. This year of worship will be as if he has fasted during his day and prayed during its night. Allah will reward him equal to the reward of all the patient ones."

Adam felt lonely, Allah did not create a friend for him, he didn't give him something to play, but Allah created women Bibi Hawwa to be his wife. It shows how important is the presence of a wife in a man's life.

before Islam, the majority of husbands did not treat their wives with respect; they scolded, yelled, reviled, berated, and abused the wife, threw filthy words toward them, even beat or tortured them.

But nowadays, I feel that the days before Islam come back again, a woman has no respect from her husband, no admiration no appreciation from her family. 

Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance of success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner.

Women are the ones who left their whole family to live with you. She is left her parents her siblings, which she had been living with since the day she was born. 

For you, she is the one who will complete half of your Deen. She is the one that Allah has made permissible for your eyes to see, for your hands to touch, for your arms to hold. She is the one who carries your baby and endures a lot of pain in all this.

In the same way, husbands are doing their best to give their family comforts. He is the backbone of the family. He is the one who permissible by Allah for you.

Respect and love your spouse, if you want to have a healthy marriage, remember together you can make this life easy for both of you.

Shield your marriage, protect your spouse position, image and reputation. stand up in defense for each other. What Allah SWT has joined together, let no one separate.

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